Let me tell you about thankfulness, and it’s power.
After losing my father quite suddenly, my life seemed to fall apart. Every day seemed like the worst day ever; a battle, if you will. Since the day my dad passed away, every single night, whether we’re together or apart, my mother, my brother and I say what we are thankful for before going to bed. When facing the hardest days and nights of our lives, we decided to find something to be thankful for in every day. At first, this was an incredibly difficult task. Amidst the incredible amount of grief we were facing, we had to be thankful? It was hard, I’m not going to lie. But it made the days bearable.
It quickly made us realize that there was, in fact, something good in every day, regardless of how you were feeling. It’s been about a year and a half since my father passed away, and we still have this ritual. Over the year and a half, I’ve come up with many, MANY things to be thankful for. To be honest, sometimes I am thankful that the day is over so that I can go to sleep, but that is still something good about my day. Sometimes we’re thankful for the food we’ve eaten during the day. Others are random, such as having a good working car, a roof over our heads, etc. Some are specific to the day; people we saw, places we went, etc.
One of my favorite things about this ritual is when we have other people with us. If my brother has a friend over, if my boyfriend is over, or if we are with our family, we ask them to also say what they are thankful for. I especially love when our whole family is over and we go around the whole group; lots of thankfulness to go around!
I can’t stress enough about how being thankful every day before you go to bed is such a game changer when it comes to your mindset. Sometimes, when I think I’ve had a really bad day, when I’m forced to pick something I’m thankful for, I find that my day was not as bad as I thought it might have been, and even puts me in a better mood sometimes. It is a great reminder that God blesses us in some way every day, whether it is big or small. The day might seem lost after many bad things that happen, but when you find something to be thankful for, it reminds you not to lose all hope.
I would highly encourage you to begin this practice of being thankful for something every day. Do it when you wake up, before you head out the door and begin your day, around the supper table with your family, or right before you go to bed. Look at your day or life and ask yourself “What am I thankful for?”. I promise, finding something to be thankful for every day becomes easier as you continue to get in the habit of doing it every day. It will get you through tough days, tough times, and it will remind you that God remembers you and blesses you, even in the smallest ways.